I changed my path. It took me over 10 years. There are many reasons I did this, many reasons it took so long as well. I have a list of reasons that I started about 10 years ago. The list grew and solidified over time.
Today, though, I wanted to share two of the reasons taken from my list: More time to just “be” and “more time with my family.” Continue reading
I need to spend more time in the now. Like everyone, I spend far too much time grasping, chasing, and hunting for things that just aren’t that important. I told my wife the other day, that my problem is that I want to “make a million dollars, help a million people, and live a million years.” When I said this, she thought “live a million years” meant I wanted to leave a legacy with my work. I thought about it for a while, and indeed that is something that I want; it’s one of those motivators that puts me back on the grasping trail. However, what I really meant by “live a million years” was that I wanted to literally “live a million years.” Talk about unrealistic expectations! Continue reading
“So the question is not: How can we obtain love and understanding? The question is whether we have the capacity of generating love and understanding ourselves…true love is like that too. Loving one person is really an opportunity to learn to love all people. If you have the capacity to love and to understand, you can do that now, you don’t have to wait. When we succeed in this, our worry and fear go away, and we feel wonderful right away.” –Thich Nhat Hahn Answers from the Heart
I was planning to visit my son at college. He knew I was going to see him Thursday. My wife had sent him a text on Monday, telling him that we would be making the 3-hour drive to have lunch with him. He responded with his typical concise “ok.” We were very busy until Wednesday night, but my wife sent a text around 6 pm, “We are coming for lunch tomorrow.” He did not respond. No big deal, this is typical of my atypical son who does not check texts very often, and seems to reply even less. At 10:30 pm the night before our trip, I sent a text to him…no response. Again, this is typical, he was probably working and couldn’t check it. As we departed for his college Thursday morning, I sent a new text, “We are coming for lunch today.” I did not receive a reply. Continue reading
We should all be so lucky to find our dream calling. That thing that we are so called to doing that we are “self-actualized” (see Maslow’s Hierarchy; also see The Problem with Maslow). I wonder if any of you have had a self-dialogue like I have had similar to the ones below:
“As soon as I find my calling, then I’ll be happy. Certainly, what I am doing now certainly is not it. I am definitely not fully satisfied doing this/being here. I need to find my dream job/life/place to live/love/home/etc., and then I will find happiness.” YOU ARE STUCK IN A TASK THAT IS NOT YOUR LOVE.
or maybe you’re here:
