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Navigating through life by learning. Sharing my thoughts and experiences, hoping that it might help as many as possible live the good life.

Rule 5: You Don’t Really Understand

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To continue the series of the Nine Rules from Meditations Chapter 11:

“Fifth, consider that thou dost not even understand whether men are doing wrong or not, for many things are done with a certain reference to circumstances. And in short, a man must learn a great deal to enable him to pass a correct judgement on another man’s acts.”

Consider this.  You see a man entering a window in a house Continue reading

Fortune and Misfortune: The Story of Maybe

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Often we think that if we can’t have a certain thing we will be crushed.  Other times we may think that if our life does not go a certain way, we will not be happy.  In fact, there may be things in our lives that seem like misfortune, when in fact they are a turning point that leads something even greater.  That, I think is why grasping for an “if only…then I’ll be happy” is such a mistake.

There is a story that runs in Zen circles, normally it goes by the title of “Maybe.”  It is appropriate in describing how we shouldn’t judge whether something is fortune and fortune.

Here it is: Continue reading

A Reflection for Today: Live Conformably in Piety and Justice

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OK, I have not been posting like I would like to.  The fact of the matter is that I have some irons in the fire, and writing has been scarce.  I will get back to it soon.  Hopefully, regularly starting in December.

In the meantime, I’ve “modernized” this passage from Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations Book 12.  Simply beautiful and wise: Continue reading

Consider your own self!

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This is fourth in a series of nine.  The first is here.

“Fourth, consider that thou also doest many things wrong, and that thou art a man like others; and even if thou dost abstain from certain faults, still thou hast the disposition to commit them, though either through cowardice, or concern about reputation, or some such mean motive, thou dost abstain from such faults.”  Marcus Aurelius Meditations Book 11

Why am I good?  Why do I tell the truth, refrain from stealing, act polite with those I can’t stand.  Why am I faithful to my wife?  Is it primarily because I fear the consequences?  Continue reading

Rule #3: Nobody’s Perfect, Learn from Mistakes (My Own and Others)

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…and now for Rule 3 from the Nine rules:

“Third, that if men do rightly what they do, we ought not to be displeased; but if they do not right, it is plain that they do so involuntarily and in ignorance. For as every soul is unwillingly deprived of the truth, so also is it unwillingly deprived of the power of behaving to each man according to his deserts. Accordingly men are pained when they are called unjust, ungrateful, and greedy, and in a word wrong-doers to their neighbours.” The Meditations Chapter 11 Continue reading